Becoming a dominatrix can be exciting and overwhelming. You always hope that your first time will be smooth, without any mistakes or injuries. Having years of experience in this field, I decided to compile a list of some of the guiding tips that will help you in your journey.
Here are a few tips which will help you become an expert dominatrix;
Tips to become a good dominatrix.
My first time was not a walk in the park. I knew it was a new adventure but I didn’t know how to go about being the dominant partner. Here are a few tips which I wish I knew when I was a newbie to domination;
Make a Sex Wish-list
A wish list is vital in every BDSM relationship. It not only involves experiences that you would love to try out but also includes those that you have no desire for.
Go on a date with your Slave and highlight what you would both love to try and things that are on both your to-do lists. This will prevent misunderstandings in the future.
A safeword helps in preventing any harm to your Slave. Feel free to choose any word to your liking. A safeword should be short, easy to pronounce, and memorable. It can range from colors to flowers to animals.
Don’t make orgasms your main item
Orgasms should be a once in a while practice, probably a reward for good behavior. Learn to connect without having sex. It takes time and patience but you will get to know how best to treat your slave. Let him learn to obey your orders and then reward him for good work.
If possible, take orgasms off your list completely. Let your slave eat you out but don’t get to climax. Climaxing will only make you weak, and dominant women are not weak. Let him worship you, treat you like a goddess because that is what you deserve.
Communication
Talking about your experiences and discussing how to improve your sex life is very important. This is what keeps the connection growing and improves the experience. Feel free to engage other kinky couples in your meet-ups and learn what you can embrace from them.
In most cases, you may end up trying items that were on the red list despite crossing them off as “off the list”. With great communication, comes the need for having an open mind. This applies to both partners and will become a turn-on as you get to know and try out new things.
Explore Your Fantasies
BDSM is all about bringing out a new you which you had tucked away and not getting judged. The great thing about trying out your fantasies is that you may both end up liking them. Take time to discuss it with your slave, know how he feels about it. If he is okay with trying your fantasy out, discuss the stages and aftercare needed.
Exploring your fantasies together will spark a connection between both partners. There is nothing better than growing both emotionally and sexually together. The last step is discussing whether your fantasy is something that you both would like to add to your daily practices or whether it should be put to hold.
Have Fun
If you are newbies who want to incorporate Fem-dom into your relationship, there is a very high chance that the first place you will do your research, is on the internet. In as much as it is an okay alternative, it is advisable not to take everything you learn into consideration.
Take time to ask yourselves the reason why you wanted this in the first place. Are you aggressive and that turns your man on? Does your man love being ordered around? After that, use these skills to start. Grow at your own pace.
It is advisable to try one new thing after every two weeks as a beginner, and after a month as you progress. This will prevent confusion and allow you to enjoy each other’s company.
Experiment with Sex Toys
From whips to vibrators and neck collars, make your relationship fun and kinky by incorporating toys into your daily life. Let your slave wear his collar to work and have his shirt buttoned up, controlled how and when he gets hard by pegging his manhood. There is a load of options, it is up to you both to choose what best works for you. Remember to always keep it safe but exciting and build up on new ways by doing multiple research.
